Wondering if you are in a loving relationship, or if you are really in love? Many people are simply unsure. Why? Because love is something we experience, it is a felt sensation stemming from another’s behavior and actions, and we learn it, or not, in our family of origins.
Know the BEHAVIORS, THE ACTIONS of real love and you will be able to identify whether you are truly in love with a person, or if your relationship is truly a loving one.
Essential Loving Behaviors
To depend and count on one another
To be there for one another
To have each other’s back
To stay together as a unified front
To comfort, support, nurture and take care of each other
To offer safety, a safe place with each other
To have access and know that he/she is there
To be on each other’s mind, to be thinking of you, to be thinking of them
To touch, to hold, to embrace naturally and with ease
To reach, to connect, to move towards one another, to be close
To confide, to open up, to share
To listen, to receive, to take in the other
To make love respectfully
To enjoy one another’s company and have fun together
To WANT to be with you, or with them
To be experience you as a priority, to make them a priority
Adapted from the literature on attachment theory.